5 Self-Sabotaging Habits Holding You Back (And How To Fix Them)!

5 Self-Sabotaging Habits Holding You Back (And How To Fix Them)

The new year comes with new opportunities and a fresh batch of motivation to follow through on our promises. Inevitably, life happens, and sticking to those resolutions gets harder. If you want to truly transform your life, examine your self-sabotaging behaviors and work to heal them. That’s the only true way to lasting growth and happiness.

When people ask me how I found happiness, the story always goes back to transforming my limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging habits. In the spirit of starting fresh (and doing it right this time), here are some of the most common ways we sabotage our own happiness and tips on how to fix them:

1. We settle because we think it’s the best we can get.

Many people unknowingly play it safe because they fear rejection. Whether it’s an unchallenging job that also fails to ignite our passion or an unfulfilling relationship, settling becomes a subconscious strategy to lower expectations and reduce pain. People crave new experiences and want passion in their lives, but their fear of the unknown is often greater than their desire to reach happiness.

The Fix: Press the reset button on your life. Imagine what your life would look like if you had everything you dream of. Nothing is permanent; at every moment of your life you have an opportunity to change directions. Resetting your life is really raising your standards.

2. We listen to our heads instead of our hearts.

One of the most common happiness-hindering habits is overthinking ourselves into paralysis. This shows up in the form of overanalyzing, being extremely critical, or just generally mistrusting our own feelings. When we rely on thoughts and ignore our feelings, we can get trapped in a web of uncertainty. Thoughts are usually fear-based and lead us to act (or not act) out of fear rather than out of self-awareness and acceptance.

The Fix: Teach yourself — through repetition, meditation, or whatever works for you — that what you believe about yourself is who you are. If you want to change something, believe you are worthy of your goals. You are.

3. We ignore inspiration.

We all have moments of inspiration. Whether it’s a nudge to go somewhere at a certain time or speak a truth that’s on our minds, acting on those intuitions is part of finding happiness. Most people don’t act on those feelings because of the anxiety that bubbles up about where those inspirations might lead you. If you feel stuck in life, chances are you’re missing these moments of inspiration.

The Fix: To fix this habit, nourish the nudge. Consider taking one step outside your comfort zone each day. If you want to write a book, set time aside and put pen to paper. If you’re itching to travel somewhere, go online and research flights or hotels. You could even go to your favorite bookstore and look at a guidebook on a few destinations, or create a Pinterest board to inspire your dream trip. Just listen to yourself, and respond with compassion, gratitude, and joy.

4. We let fear rule us.

Fear is the cause of most dissatisfaction in life. Fear of pain drives many people to depression, addiction, staying in situations that suck the life out of them, and other self-sabotaging and abusive patterns. Familiarity is our safety net. Branching out into the unknown is extremely unnerving, but I know from my own journey that all transformation requires us to accept uncertainty and embrace the unknown. Fulfillment and security are on the other side of the challenge.

The Fix: To feel more joy and confidence through times of uncertainty, let your heart lead you. Inspiration comes through the heart. The happiest, most successful, and healthiest people you know have learned to trust the inner wisdom of their hearts.

5. We worry too much about what other people think.

Many of us seek reassurance from others and let their opinions keep us from making the choices we need to make to be happy. If you want to leave the job you hate or try something new, you may worry about those closest to you judging you or disapproving of your actions. This can only make it harder for you to reach your goal.

The Fix: Support yourself. You want to surround yourself with people who believe in you. But you have to believe in yourself first. If you’re worried about what others will think, read that as a cue to turn your attention inward and develop confidence within yourself. When we hold up an energetic mirror to problem situations, we see that they’re all reflections of us. If you want others to believe in you and support you, first support yourself.                                                             

Smooth Moves – Creative Additions to Consider for your Smoothies!

Smooth Moves – Creative Additions to Consider for your Smoothies

When looking for a quick breakfast or post-workout nourishment, almost nothing beats a smoothie. Whirl in the right ingredients and the blended drink can deliver the necessary mix of protein, carbs, healthy fats and antioxidants to promote health and kick-start muscle-building. But a smoothie can be so much more than just milk, fruit and a scoop of protein powder—a less-than-inspiring combo that inevitably leads to smoothie burnout.

​​So to breathe new life into your smoothies, try whirling in these surprising items that give each sip more nutritional firepower.

Avocado transforms a smoothie into a deliciously creamy drink, as well as infuses it with a payload of nutrients including hunger-quelling fiber, vitamin K and heart-healthy monounsaturated fat. Mix it with the right ingredients and your smoothie won’t taste like guacamole.

Blend this: 1 cup water, 1/2 cup plain Greek yogurt, 1/2 small avocado, 1/2 cup baby spinach, 1/2 frozen chopped banana, 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice and 2 teaspoons honey.

Sweet Potato
A raw spud has no place in a smoothie, but the cooked orange variety adds natural sweetness to a shake, not to mention a wallop of beta-carotene, an antioxidant linked to lower levels of heart-hampering inflammation (Wang 2014).

Blend this: 1 cup unsweetened almond milk, 1 cup cooked sweet potato, 1 scoop protein powder, 2 teaspoons almond butter, 1 teaspoon vanilla extract, 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon and 1/2 frozen chopped banana.

Ricotta Cheese
Think beyond the Italian eatery when it comes to this creamy guise of cheese. Ricotta cheese adds richness to smoothies along with whey protein, among the best types of protein you can eat to promote muscle recovery and muscle-building.

Blend this: 1 cup milk, 1/2 cup reduced fat ricotta cheese, 1/2 cup frozen pitted cherries, 2 teaspoons almond butter, 2 teaspoons pure maple syrup, 1 teaspoon vanilla extract, 1/2 teaspoon lemon zest and 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon.

Good for more than just hummus, tahini infuses smoothies with a—what’s that?—toasty flavor along with the range of vitamins and minerals present in its sesame origins.

Blend this: 1 cup coconut water, 1/2 cup ice cubes, 1/2 cup plain Greek yogurt, 1 chopped small carrot, 1 peeled small orange, 1 tablespoon tahini, 1 teaspoon fresh ginger and 1/4 teaspoon ground allspice.

Here’s proof that green tea isn’t just something you sip warm from a mug. Made from finely milled whole tea leaves, matcha green tea powder is jam-packed with higher levels of body-friendly antioxidants than regular green tea (Weiss 2003). It works especially well in smoothies with tropical ingredients.

Blend this: Blend together 1 cup coconut milk beverage, 1/2 cup soft (silken) tofu, 1 cup frozen mango cubes, juice of 1/2 lime, 1 teaspoon matcha powder and 1 teaspoon fresh ginger.

Frozen Spinach
Most people don’t eat enough vegetables. So think of smoothies as a great way to sneak more into your diet; for example, Popeye’s favorite veggie. Because water is removed during the freezing process, frozen spinach, which can go straight from freezer to blender, is more nutrient dense than fresh including higher amounts of vitamin A and vitamin K.

Blend this: 1 cup unsweetened almond milk, 1/2 cup plain Greek yogurt, 1 cup frozen spinach, 1/2 small frozen chopped banana, 2 tablespoons unsalted cashews, 2 tablespoons fresh mint leaves, 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice and 2 teaspoons honey.

Subzero Hero
What’s the secret to creamy, frosty smoothies? Definitely not ice cubes. Turn instead to frozen bananas. Peel ripe bananas with plenty of dark spots on the skin and then slice into thirds or quarters. Place on a baking sheet and freeze until solid. Store in an airtight zip-top bag until a smoothie craving strikes.

Contact Taylor Made Fitness for a complimentary consultation. Let us help you reach your fitness goals!

Committed to your success,

Lisa L. Taylor
Taylor Made Fitness
4640 Cass Street
Unit 91475
San Diego, CA 92169

9 Stretches You Can Do At Your Desk

9 Stretches You Can Do At Your Desk

9 Office Stretches
If you have a desk job, it’s likely you also suffer from tension or pain in your neck, shoulders, back, or hips. That’s because sitting for long stretches of time is not an ideal position for your body…or your health.

But, until you acquire a standing desk, here are 9 stretches you can do in the office that will relieve the pressure.

Seated Spinal Twist
Here’s a great way to release tension in your back. Sit on your chair sideways so that your shoulders and back are perpendicular to the back of the chair. Sit up straight, place your feet on the ground and place your hands on the back of the chair. Using your arms, twist, puling yourself towards the chair. Switch the side of the chair you’re sitting on and repeat. This pose stretches out the spine, chest, and neck. Take approximately 8 to10 breaths on each side.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Seated Spinal Twist
Cat/Cow Stretch
You only feel as young as your spine is flexible! This move can help. Sit up straight, place your feet flat on the floor, and rest the palms of your hands on top of your knees. Inhale, arch your back and look up, pulling your shoulders back as you do so. This will open up the whole front of the torso and neck. When you exhale, round your spine, pull the shoulders toward each other at the front of the body and drop your head tower your chest. This will stretch and open the back, shoulders, and neck. Do approximately 8 to 10 complete rounds.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Cat Cow Pose
Forward Bend
When you spend hours upon hours in a seated position, the hamstrings tighten and the tighter the hamstrings are, the more they pull on the muscles of the lower back. To help avoid lower back pain caused by sitting, stand up, place your feet flat on the floor, and bend over at the hips bringing your chest toward or onto your thighs. Let your head drop loose and your arms hang beside you. Take 8 to 10 breaths.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Forward Bend Pose
Eagle Arms
Sitting at the computer all day can do a number on your shoulders and upper back. This may help. While sitting, reach your arms straight out in front of you, keeping them parallel with your shoulders and shoulder-distance apart. Bend the left arm upward and sweep the right arm under it. Wrap your right arm around the left until you are able to grab the outside edge of the left arm or until you are able to clasp your palms together. Lift the elbows away towards the ceiling and pull your hands away from your face. Turn your head side-to-side. Repeat on the other side. This will stretch the muscles under the shoulder blades, the upper back, shoulders, and neck. Hold each side for approximately 8 to 10 breaths.

Office Stretches Eagle Arms Pose
Standing Pigeon Pose
Ok, this pose isn’t quite as discreet, but when you sit for long periods of time, your hips can get sore and this hip-opening pose can help reduce tension. To do it, stand with your feet hip-distance apart. Facing the desk, place your knee and the bottom half of your leg on the desk. Bend your knee and pull your foot towards your body. Your leg should be parallel to your body. With your left leg straight, bend towards your right leg. Hold for approximately 8 to 10 breaths then repeat on the other side.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Standing Pigeon Pose
Chest Opener
If you have a job that requires you sit at a desk, you probably have some pretty tight chest and shoulder muscles. You can stay right in your chair for this one. Simply interlace your fingers behind you and place your arms on the top of your chair’s backrest. Drop your chin to the chest. Your chest, shoulders, and neck will appreciate it. Hold this pose for 8 to 10 breaths.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Chest Opener Pose
Thread The Needle
Here’s another great hip opener stretch to release tension in the hips and lower back. Sit up straight in your chair with your feet flat on the floor. Cross your left leg over onto your right leg, placing the ankle of the left directly above the right knee. Thread your left hand between your legs and hold onto the back of your right thigh. Lift your legs up–using your right hand as well if you wish–until you feel a stretch in your left hip. Hold for 8 to 10 breaths and then repeat on the other side.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Thread the Needle Pose
Hand Stretch
I bet you spend a lot of the day typing or texting. If you do, you’ll want to do this hand stretch. Stand, place both hands on your desk, palms faced down, fingertips facing your body. To intensify the stretch, lean forward. Hold the stretch until you feel the tension release.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Hand Stretch Pose
Neck Rolls
After a long day do you notice tension in your neck and shoulders? When we are tense, it’s the shoulders that think they can hold up the weight of the world. To give them some relief,, sit up straight in your chair with your feet flat on the floor. Bring your chin toward your chest and roll the right ear to the right shoulder. To intensify the stretch, place your left hand on top of your right shoulder and place your right hand just above your left ear. Gently apply pressure with the hand on your head hand and breathe through the stretch. Take approximately 8 to 10 breaths, then switch to the other side.

Office Yoga Stretches Pose Neck Rolls

​Contact Taylor Made Fitness for a complimentary consultation. Let us help you reach your fitness goals!

Committed to your success,

Taylor Made Fitness
4640 Cass Street
Unit 91475
San Diego, CA 92169